Alot of sites become cattle-markets, competitive beyond belief, often forgetting why most people are there. LL offers something unique in that the people are genuinely interested in each other and, for the most part, want to preserve their marriages for the sake of their respective partners and families. This site is not about wrecking marriages, but about helping people realise what they really want out of their relationships, both extra-curricular and domestic.

As with most things in life, you will get out what you put into it. There are many different aspects to the site which I didn’t use as it didn’t fit in with my work/lifestyle [chatroom, gold service, darkside, private messaging], however due to the site’s flexibility it is easy for it to become highly addictive.

I will always have extremely fond memories of the place and all the great people I’ve met at the member organised drinks events all over the country and for enabling me to meet the man who I adore.

Lovinglinks – highly recommended and highly addictive

Links manages to match people in a very personal manner and you feel part of a community rather than a collection of profiles on a database.

The owner of the site is a real person who takes great care to personally select compatibility matches for his clients, taking great care to filter potential dates so neither male nor female client is dissapointed.

No layered website, no layered billing, no layered con. Links is all about the people it represents, and which form it’s community, and long may it remain so.

The proof of the pudding is in the eating. I’ve met a couple of people, exchanged emails with many more, have met the owner of the site and attended a fabulous long lunch with about 20 other members. It gets my vote.

There were moments, when I first joined LL (which is free for women, would I have paid? Yes, if I had any money.)that I felt I was in some kind of ideal post-conference reception, where all the bores are doing their own thing at the bar and you are surrounded by interested, attractive intelligent men who are (my god, is this possible when you are over 60 and invisible outside in the world?) wanting to get to know you. Through the site I encountered four delightful men, before I removed my name. I am certain that I could become good friends with all of them, they are not unlike some of my oldest friends and the kind of people I’d love to meet if I actually had the means to run around Britain, getting into offices and interviewing likely candidates. But I don’t. And nobody gets the opportunity to meet me except my postman since I spend eighty percent of my time at my computer except when I rush into the university to teach. And all my fellow faculty members are far too busy to utter more than the occasional hi over the photocopier. This is what life is like today.

Of the four men I got to know through emails and phone calls, one has become a lover and will, I am sure, remain a friend even when the affair burns itself out. But, perhaps, even more than the joy of a new love affair (I use this word precisely, there is nothing sleazy about this site) is the delight in realising that at I have rediscovered the sensual, and sexual person that I used to be. Passion is not bounded by age. For anyone thinking that life has stopped for them and they should concentrate on the garden, I would say, ok, but weeding is much more fun if you are doing it before you go out to meet your lover.