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Beginning to date again after a break-up

If you’ve recently ended a relationship, you may need to take some time before you start thinking of dating again.  Only you will know when the time is right; but when it is, you should seize the opportunity to climb back into the saddle again. Often times, the problem when a lesbian couple splits up, is that the friends the two of you had as a couple usually stay friends with only one of you. Some women find themselves not only single again, but they find they have also lost the majority of their friends.  This is a painful fact that occurs when many relationships end; however, it is also an opportunity to begin again with a clean slate.

Dating is hard all by itself, but it’s even more difficult after you’ve been in a long-term relationship and now you find yourself back on the playing field.  To add insult to injury, if you now find yourself without your usual circle of lesbian friends, this can be a very lonely time indeed.  One suggestion to getting yourself back out there is to make a list of some short-term goals, hobbies and interests.  This may be the perfect time to take that sculpting class you’ve always wanted to do but never seemed to have the time.  Perhaps there are volunteer opportunities in your local area that will get you out and about and busy again. It’s fine to take some time to mourn your relationship and ease the heart ache, but eventually you have to become part of the world again.  Ease yourself in slowly, but find fun things of interest that will make this transitional period easy on you.

There are plenty of opportunities to get your social life back in order once you are ready.  There are meet-up groups and lesbian dating sites; there are classes you can take at the local community center, or you might want to become involved with local charitable organizations or do some community theatre.  The sky is the limit; it is really just up to you.

Intimacy may not be what you are looking for if you’re still reeling from a recent break-up.  But that doesn’t mean you can’t date!  Go out and meet some of the great women that are out there. If you are honest about the fact that you are only interested in casual dating at this point in time, you might open yourself up to meeting an array of available women, and make some great friends in the process.

Yes, breakups are difficult and they you do need a certain amount of time to mourn their loss.  But it will do you a world of good to get back out into the social arena where you can make some new friends and when you least expect it, you may just meet that special someone who help you forget that aching heart of yours.

This article was written for Top UK Dating Sites by Debbie Lamedman of Lesbian Dating Website . You can comment on this article or contact Debbie via