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Internet dating etiquette

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Just because you are speaking with your date online, it does not give you the right to be rude.  Unfortunately, in an age of technology, we have become more socially antisocial.  Although we are able to speak with more people at a faster rate, we lose our sensibility of speaking face to face with someone.  In the case of online dating, you may be speaking directly to that person over video conferencing but still not treat that person as if you were side by side.  This is exactly why online daters are in need of some serious internet dating etiquette.

If you are not accustomed to online dating it may take you a while to adjust to the rules of online dating.  You may lose a few dates here and there but after a while, you will get the hang of online dating etiquette.  Your etiquette starts at the first sign of interest.  If someone sends you a message, do not wait a week or two before answering if you are interested.  If you are not interested, then you should reply back right away as to not leave this person waiting for you.  If you are interested, at most you should wait about a day or two.  You do not want to reply ten minutes later as you may come off as desperate.

Once you set a time for your online date, be on time.  There is nothing worse than having to wait around for someone who you have never met before.  Regardless of how interested this person is in you, they will not wait around an hour or two.  By making your date wait you are giving off the impression that you do not take online dating seriously.  Most people will not be given second chances.

While you are on your date, some basic internet dating etiquette includes turning off your phone and paying attention.  Many people put their date on hold in order to answer their phone and speak with a friend.  Even though you are at a distance, you are still on a date and this is incredibly rude.  Likewise, you may not be able to look deeply into the eyes of your date but this does not mean that you should be playing around with the items close to you.  You should give your date your undivided attention.

It may take some time adjusting to internet dating but following a strict internet dating etiquette will help you to get dates and maintain a healthy relationship.

Sorting the Wheat From the Chaff

One of the most common dating problems in internet dating is sorting the wheat from the chaff.  There are millions of people dating online, so who do you know is right for you?  In reality, you will not know until you try to date some of these possibilities.  However, you can separate the genuine requests from suspicious ones.  There are plenty of internet scams going around and you should not be stuck in one of them.  The best way to pick out a scam is to be observant of the people who contact you.

Anyone who asks for personal information or requests money from you is a scam artist.  You should cease talking to this person immediately at that moment.  You may not realize it at the time, but look at your communication log.  Are the same facts being repeated? Is the language used from the same person?  There should be consistency throughout all of your communications.  If there is not, then you might be looking at a scam.

When asked, “how do you know which person would be a good choice for me?” you have to do a little research.  Looking at a member profile is the best way to sort the wheat from the chaff.  What does this profile say about this person?  Do you agree?  Does this person’s profile make you want to meet him or her or run away?  If you are attracted to this person’s profile, then you will most likely be attracted to this person.

Once you reply back to this person, see how long it takes for your potential date to respond back to you.  If the communication seems delayed, he or she may not be as intensely involved in online dating as one should be.  Online dating is not a hobby.  It is an excellent tool to go out and meet new people, especially if you are looking for a relationship.  If this person is not really looking too hard for a date, you may want to move onto another dating member.

The most important factor in sorting the wheat from the chaff is to go on your feelings.  What do you think about this person?  Do you think he or she is worth the trouble? Do you feel like he or she is putting the same amount of effort into the relationship?  If you have a good feeling about this person then you are most likely right and going to succeed.

Guest blogger, Allison Schleck of Dating Services.